Standard does not mean correct. It means enough people use it that it became accepted, in a certain use. Each of the quotes you have provided show it NOT being used in the way XS is asking about. Quoting more things that say the thing do not help that you still don't understand what you're quoting.
But we can agree to disagree. "If you have any other questions don't ask Sam or me." Not 'myself'. I bet that still doesn't make sense to you...
I never said it did. You stated that it's not synonymous with correct. But it is. Words like law, rule and specification come to mind as well. "The dictionary is the standard by which a person's grasp of the language is measured."
And I vehemently disagree. I disagree because the dictionary and hundreds of years of written English disagree. I disagree because I just can't bring myself to flush the written word down the toilet simply because people today believe that passing their computer's spell check equates to successful writing.